Arthritis

Why does this have to surface just as I've turned 60?  Seems like everything age-related happens to me at the typical earliest age, making it more difficult to ignore the fact that I'm getting older.  Turns out my neck pain is being caused by arthritis (called cervical spondylosis).  When I mentioned to the doctor that my jaw was cracking/locking up also, he said I should be checked for TMJ.  He confirmed that I have scoliosis--something no doctor had mentioned until my GP noted it a few months ago.  Apparently the scoliosis is resulting in my neck having to carry more weight than normal.   I'm set to have an MRI next week; after that the doctor said he would be able to tell me what I should/shouldn't do to help the neck pain.

It's possible the headstands I was doing up until about a year ago contributed to the arthritis; who knows.  Arthritis does run in our family, and I do have it in my fingers, so I'll never know for sure.  But I'm guessing I will need to stay away from exercises/poses that put pressure on my neck.  I'm sure the rolling I did on the hard floor at the Y didn't help, either.  I really think yoga instructors need to be more careful when they're teaching in spaces with hard floors--the mats do nothing to protect the spine.

A pain in the neck

My neck (and related areas) has been hurting for 5 months now--something I'm not used to at all.  I'm used to aches and pains, to the extent I have them, going away in a few days.  So it's another adjustment to aging--coping with chronic pain.  I first saw a GP, who sent me to physical therapy.  They didn't do much--mostly measured how much I could turn my head, which was pretty exasperating.  They gave me a few neck exercises, which I've been doing.  But the pain hasn't gone away, so I'll see an orthopedist in a few weeks.  I don't know if whether the cause was whiplash from a car accident I was in (passenger) in late Feb.,  or an awkward yoga roll on the hard floor at the Y (I've stopped taking classes there), or from holding a flute (beginner).  But I'm just not used to things not getting better.  I've continued to do yoga, but don't do headstands--do arm balances instead.

I'm hoping the orthopedist will be able to tell me if it's a disc issue, or a bone spur, or something else.  Maybe he can give me additional exercises to strengthen my upper back, which is weak despite the yoga, pilates and weight lifting.  Or an injection to reduce swelling, if there is some (the right side of my neck feels slightly swollen to me.

Approaching 50 percent grey...

She said it matter-of-factly, so it took a while to process--that my hair is "approaching 50 percent grey". I thought there was only a bit around the front scalp line (and some near the part), but then my hair has been highlighted so long I guess I don't know how much I have.  But I realize the streaks in the back underside aren't hairs that are overly highlighted--they're grey/white.  I'm just not ready to go grey.  I know the new trend is supposedly going natural, but I don't need any help looking older.  So I'm still struggling with the hairdresser's advice that I move from highlights to semipermanent color.   And I've been doing research to figure which at-home products color grey the best (and are easy to use), but I can't figure it out.  And it seems so risky.  Why isn't there a hair product that just covers the grey?

mature hair

When I decided to grow my hair longer, I discovered that my hair texture had changed--more brittle, drier, and duller.  I've been experimenting with hair products--started using B&B coconut shampoo and conditioner as well as Kiel shampoo and conditioner with olive oil.  Trying to make my hair shinier, but in the process it felt flat and somewhat scraggly.  I bought a straightening iron and have tried it a few times--seeing steam rising from my hair at 450 degree setting is not a good thing, I decided.  I don't think my hair was meant for the straight look--the ends looked frazzeled, and small frayed strands stuck out.  And I was using a Remington, which has gotten high marks.  So my latest effort included trying my third new hairdresser--she seems good; knew how to layer my hair without making it too short.  And she recommended Kinerase's line of products for "mature hair".  So I bought the whole line, and will see how that works. I had been looking for a while for "mature" hair products, but without success.  Tried Dove as well as L'Oreal products supposedly designed for older hair, but neither did anything.  I'm still trying to figure out what direction to go with the hair color.  I have had foil highlights for decades--since I was in my 30's--but more gray is appearing.  The new hairdresser suggested semipermanent hair coloring.  I plan to try that in about 6 weeks.  Coloring all my hair makes me nervous--I like the different shades.  She said I would still have varying shades.  We'll see.  For now I want to see if the pricey Kinerase hair products make my hair shinier and repair the split ends while still providing bounce and volune.  We'll see.

Nothing to show for it

I've wanted to play the flute since I was 9.  But we had a clarinet, so I was told I had to play that.  They bought it for my sister, who had stopped playing it, and they weren't about to waste money on another instrument.  Would I have practiced more if I had a flute?  I'll never know.  But I quit the clarinet after a couple of years, and was barely able to practice the piano for 1/2 hour a day.  And then there were the recitals.  At some point during elementary school I developed stage fright, which really has never gone away.  Especially when it comes to music.  And when I can't play something exactly the way I want to; the way it should be played, I get frustrated and give up.  More practice doesn't always help; it just adds to the frustration.

I bought a flute 30 years ago, on a trip to Japan.  A Miramatsu that cost about $400.  I started taking lessons, but traveled so much the teacher gave away my time slot.  On and off since then, I would think about taking lessons, but didn't want to unless I thought I had the time to practice.  I still don't know if I have the perseverance I didn't have when I was younger.

I've been taking lessons for 6 months now, practicing about 1 1/2 hours per day.  Every day, except when I've been away from home.  What's my goal, at my age, for taking up the flute?  I say it's to be good enough to join a community orchestra.  I said I would give myself 2 years to see how I progress.  The problem with playing music is, unless you perform (well) in front of others, you have nothing to show for your efforts.  Not like paintings, or sculptures; even bad ones.  I've played once, in front of people, and got through it, but I was nervous.  Mostly air coming out of the flute, from what I could hear.  Mistakes, but I kept going.   But then I was playing duets, so in essence hiding behind my teacher.  I don't know how it will go the first time I have to play by myself in front of others.  I am practicing more than I've practiced any other instrument except voice, so I'm hoping the repetition, the muscle memory, will help calm the fear.  But the embouchere--it's still a mystery.   The difference between air and a tone is so slight.  And nerves affect it, even when I think I'm not doing anything any differently than when I get a nice warm tone.  Which is rare, but encouraging when it happens.

You stopped cutting your hair...

That's the first thing she said to me the last time I visited her.  Actually, I thought she said "you stopped coloring your hair" so I explained how I was trying to tone down the highlights in my hair and was waiting longer than I normally do to get highlights.  But I realized later she said "cut" not "color".  She was having trouble with her speech; plus I wanted to hear "color" not "cut".  So she didn't like how my hair looked.  She had always complimented me on my cut when it was short; said she thought my hairdresser did a really good job.  But I wanted to grow my hair longer, and was battling with my hairdresser, who kept cutting it too short, with bangs that were too thick.  So I was experimenting with a new hair stylist.  Why should it matter what she thinks, anyway.  It affected my whole visit; I kept fussing with my hair, reminding myself that I feel softer, look more feminine, with it longer.  Why did she have to say it?  I'm a grown woman, who wants one last chance to have long hair before it starts falling out, or getting too thin.  Instead it's what I remember most about that visit.

I did get my hair cut before the memorial service, but not as short as she would have wanted.  Just to make sure it looked neat, with ends that weren't frayed or frizzy.  I'm keeping it longer.  At least for now.